Friday, May 3, 2013

When Christians fight and quarrel


James 4:1-2 (NIV)
What causes fights and quarrels?  Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?  You want something but you don't get it.  You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want.  You quarrel and fight.  You do not have, because you do not ask God. 

The book of James is the Proverbs of the New Testament.  Both books are books of wisdom.  James is my favorite book of the Bible because of its practicality on how to live your life with wisdom.  James also is not afraid to “get into his readers’ faces” and confront them about situations that they’ve gotten themselves into. 

These two verses give an excellent example of the wisdom from James.  He reasons that Christians (yes, he’s writing to Christians as many times in this letter he uses the term “my brethren”) fight and quarrel because of prideful things.  Pride produces evil desires within people that make them want more money, more things, more recognition, greater status, whatever self-centered people want. 

The word “desires” comes from the word “epithumia” that means to long after, to covet.  This is sin that comes within, just as Jesus said in Mark 7:15, 20 where it is the things that proceed out of man that defile him.  Examples are given in Mark 7:21-22 that include what James is referring to here—evil thoughts, murders, deeds of coveting, envy, pride, and all kinds of foolishness. 

These epithumia desires battle within you.  This is war between the flesh (human nature) and spirit (God nature).  Pride in man allows the human nature to dominate and so man fights and quarrels.  Humility in man allows the spirit nature to dominate and the spirit nature trusts in God through prayer.  God will supply all your needs in life if you trust Him, but you must be humble to trust Him. 

Reflect about your present and past and the fights and quarrels that you have experienced.  Why did these happen?  Can you see and admit that most of the time they happened because you were not getting your own way?  Was your pride wounded?  Were you jealous or envious because of what someone else got or had that you did not?  Did you ever pause and ask for God’s serenity, for His Spirit to control you rather than your wounded ego?     

These two verses summarize why human beings fight with one another—the focus on ME (selfishness) and the focus on worldly things (materialism).  Simply realizing these two reasons for fighting and quarreling might go a long way to help you stop.  Someone once said, “It takes two to quarrel, but only one to end it”.  Get your eyes and heart off yourself and this world and set them instead on the Lord.  Of course, so much easier said than done.  May you seek God’s strength to become more humble and stop fighting and quarreling. 

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